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DEAR ABBY: My husband of 42 years wanted to move to the Northwest. We initially fell in love with it and lived there for four years. I found work, made friends and enjoyed myself immensely.

Jeanne Phillips 

My husband kept traveling back to Southern California for work and decided he no longer wanted to live up north.

I protested, but he didn’t want to hear it, so we moved back down again.

Now, after the pandemic year and having lived in our home less than two years, he wants to move back to the Northwest because “it’s too hot, too crowded, etc., here.”

I gave him my opinion, and a huge fight ensued. I never wanted to move back south, but he was belligerently insistent. I’m not sure what to think anymore. Any advice?

NORTH VS. SOUTH

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DEAR N. VS. S.: Your husband appears to rule the roost.

Moving is challenging, particularly if you’re stuck with the responsibility of packing up your household. Frankly, I am more concerned about the fact that he’s unwilling to listen to your concerns than about the inconvenience, but after all these years, I’m not sure that’s fixable.

On the plus side, you stated that you “loved” living in the Northwest, found work you enjoyed and made friends. If you return to the area in which you were living, you may be able to renew those relationships, so concentrate on the positive. If your husband flip-flops again, you can then decide whether to live separately in the location of your choice.

DEAR ABBY: I have a problem with one player in our weekly golf group. He hasn’t been vaccinated and won’t wear a mask.

Our group is mostly older players who all share golf carts. Everyone in the group has been vaccinated except this one person.

As the group coordinator, I prearrange the foursomes every week. Several of the players have informed me they do not want to share a cart with the unvaccinated person. In some cases, they have paid additional cart costs in order to avoid riding with him.

As you can imagine, it becomes a problem for me trying to put the groups together each week. How should I handle this?

SPORTSMAN IN ARIZONA

DEAR SPORTSMAN: Poll the entire group about how they feel about riding with an unvaccinated person. If the majority of the players are uncomfortable sharing a cart with him, tell him he will have to reserve his own cart and ride solo if he wishes to continue participating in the group.

If this seems harsh, perhaps those members who don’t mind riding with him — if there are enough of them — would agree to ride with him permanently. You won’t know unless you ask.

TO MY READERS: The eight days of the Jewish holiday of Hanukkah begin at sundown. (Very early this year!) Happy Hanukkah, everyone! A joyous Festival of Lights to all of us.

LOVE, ABBY

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The city council preliminarily approved the proposed ordinance on Tuesday. The Colorado-based National Association for Gun Rights filed the suit the same day, asking the US District Court in San Jose to prevent the city from enforcing the proposed ordinance on numerous constitutional grounds, including alleging infringements on the Second Amendment. "San Jose's imposition of a tax, fee, or other arbitrary cost on gun ownership is intended to suppress gun ownership without furthering any government interest. In fact, the penalties for nonpayment of the insurance and fees include the seizure of the citizen's gun. The ordinance is, therefore, patently unconstitutional," the suit reads.The city has identified a law firm to represent it on the issue at no charge, the mayor's office has said."No good deed goes unlitigated," Mayor Sam Liccardo said this week in response to the lawsuit. 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No insurer offers coverage to individuals for such shootings, according to the Insurance Information Institute.As for the new fee: The ordinance would require gun owning residents to pay an annual "gun harm reduction" fee that will fund "a nonprofit organization being created by a team of public health and gun violence experts," the mayor's office says. That fee would be about $25, plus "a small additional cost for the administration of the program," according to the office.The nonprofit will distribute the money "to community-based, evidence-based programs to reduce gun violence, such as domestic violence and suicide prevention, mental health counseling, addiction treatment, and gun-safe storage and training," the mayor's office says.If the council approves the ordinance in a final reading on February 8, it would take effect in August, absent any court action.Lawsuit: Ordinance affects only owners of lawfully-owned gunsIn addition to taking issue with alleged constitutional infringements, the gun rights group's lawsuit also contends the ordinance "only affects owners of lawfully-owned guns," and its "true impact is solely on guns kept in the home by law-abiding citizens.""It does nothing to deter the scourge of unlawful ownership and use of guns by criminals to recoup from them compensation for the injuries and damage they cause," the lawsuit states. 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The mayor argued legally owned firearms are also "a source of enormous amount of death and harm in our community and we need to be addressing that as well."Mayor emphasizes cost of shootingsWhen Liccardo proposed the fee last year, his office said it would "compensate taxpayers for the public cost of responding to gun-related injuries and death, such as for emergency medical and police response."By Tuesday, when the city council voted on the ordinance, the mayor's office was no longer saying the fee would compensate taxpayers. Instead, the ordinance directs the fee's proceeds to the nonprofit for distribution to gun-violence reduction programs.Nevertheless, Liccardo's office has stressed the costs of firearm injuries. 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A supporter told the council the ordinance will "help protect our community from preventable gun deaths," while another called on members to approve the measure, saying, "In the near future, it will be very evident that this was an obvious thing to do, and we'll wonder why we didn't do it sooner."

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